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Say "No" and Mean it. No More Back and Forth!

NOTE TO SELF:



My 20 year old son has a strength that I am still trying to find at almost 42... When he says NO, he means NO. When he cuts someone off, that person is CUT OFF. When he is Done, he is DONE... At times, his actions seemed callous to me, because I am that person that doesn't want to hurt others' feelings. I've realized, however, the importance of saying "No", and meaning it.  I've also recognized the reduction of stress (less frustration, feelings of resentment, negative energy in general) that I could have, if I were to decrease "people-pleaser actions". I've linked a great article about People-Pleaser signs, helpful tips on how to stop this type of behavior, and how it affects you. 
If you're not sure that you're a people-pleaser, then here are a few simple questions to ask yourself, when self-evaluating:
1. Do you have a low opinion of yourself? Sometimes our opinion of ourselves is not high enough to be enough. Seeking or ne…