Wednesday, November 28, 2018

Don't Be Afraid to Let Go...

ChristalNicole | image consultant, McKinney, TX

Whether it's a person, situation or emotional attachment to something, many of us have a difficult time with letting things go and moving on with our lives...

Yes, I'm talking about myself as well. I'm guilty (first step is to admit it, right?), or at least, I have been: 

If a person stopped communicating or decided to leave my life, I would try to figure out why and inwardly be broken, even if I didn't show it.... If I went through something traumatic, then I would allow it to effect my future (sound familiar?)... 

But then there was this thing called self-evaluation and this other thing called an epiphany!

Suddenly, after all the years of doing something so unhealthy, I became (and continue to become) this person that no longer wanted to allow people or circumstances to determine my life, health or overall emotional state...

let go

But Christal, I've tried to let go, and I just can't seem to... 

Well, Ok dahling, this is why I am writing this little piece today. Psychology Today and  PsychCentral have pretty great articles with a few suggestions that I'm including in my list, but I have a few suggestions of my own:
  1. Recognize that you're holding on to that infectious thing (just be "real" with yourself)
  2. Make a conscious and definitive decision to let go 
  3. If it is a person, then recognize that you are giving that person power over you that he/she probably doesn't even realize has been given (especially due to the fact that the other person has usually moved on and isn't giving you or the situation a second thought)
  4. Recognize your worth and the value of your time (while you are wasting time crying, pondering, being bitter, hating, chasing, etc. etc. etc., you could be taking over the world baby!)
  5. Talk to someone about what you're feeling (wise friend, counselor, clergy, ChristalNicole ;) )
I know. Right now, you're probably singing 

Are you ready? You can do it. Let it go! 
Until next time, I leave you your passionately driven ChristalNicole...

Friday, November 2, 2018

Your Most Important Audience is You...

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"I want to be a great role model for my daughter/son."
"I want people to see the good in me."
"I just want to make my parents proud.".....................

All wonderful statements and positive goals to reach for. However, I want to put a little bug in your ear that may just also bring you a moment (hopefully a lifetime) of enlightenment by asking you this question:

"What do you SEE, when you look into the mirror?"

A simple enough question, if you refuse to come with me to this deep place that I'm attempting to guide you to... Allow me to take your virtual hand and guide you a moment into self-exploration:
  • Who is this woman/man that you see staring back at you?
  • Do you make yourself proud?
  • Are you happy with the morals/ideals/decisions that you express/make?
  • Do YOU see the good in you?
  • Are there things that you are ashamed of and refuse to forgive yourself for?
  • Do you accept who you are completely?
 ornate mirror
It's one thing, if you have the ability to look yourself in the mirror, and acknowledge how handsome/beautiful you may think that you are. It's another to take an honest look inside your own soul, face your demons and work toward loving the person that you see reflected. 

Let's look back at the statements that I made in the beginning of this entry. In essence, if you are able to do such a brave, honest and pure thing as true self-evaluation, then you will automatically be able to be the reflection of positiveness that others will see. A truly happy person exudes happiness, just as a truly loving person exudes love.

Your most important audience is you. Be able to applaud yourself and others will applaud. Ready to join the applause, I leave you as always your passionately driven ChristalNicole...