"I want to be a great role model for my daughter/son."
"I want people to see the good in me."
"I just want to make my parents proud.".....................
All wonderful statements and positive goals to reach for. However, I want to put a little bug in your ear that may just also bring you a moment (hopefully a lifetime) of enlightenment by asking you this question:
"What do you SEE, when you look into the mirror?"
A simple enough question, if you refuse to come with me to this deep place that I'm attempting to guide you to... Allow me to take your virtual hand and guide you a moment into self-exploration:
- Who is this woman/man that you see staring back at you?
- Do you make yourself proud?
- Are you happy with the morals/ideals/decisions that you express/make?
- Do YOU see the good in you?
- Are there things that you are ashamed of and refuse to forgive yourself for?
- Do you accept who you are completely?
It's one thing, if you have the ability to look yourself in the mirror, and acknowledge how handsome/beautiful you may think that you are. It's another to take an honest look inside your own soul, face your demons and work toward loving the person that you see reflected.
Let's look back at the statements that I made in the beginning of this entry. In essence, if you are able to do such a brave, honest and pure thing as true self-evaluation, then you will automatically be able to be the reflection of positiveness that others will see. A truly happy person exudes happiness, just as a truly loving person exudes love.
Your most important audience is you. Be able to applaud yourself and others will applaud. Ready to join the applause, I leave you as always your passionately driven ChristalNicole...