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Dear Future Forever Love...

dear future forever love

...And I mean exactly that... Forever...

No, this is not a rant. It is not a blog entry to put anyone down or vent about life, love or the lack thereof. I hope and pray that this entry is encouraging to all who read it and that you share with others for encouragement as well.

Often times, when we have experienced love and heartbreak, everyone seems to have ALL of the advice for us:

  • Don't give up
  • Don't be so hard on yourself (ie, you can't think like that, don't say that, there's nothing wrong with you...)
  • Don't be so hard on future prospects
  • Your expectations are too high
  • You overthink things too much (I get That one a whoooole lot, lol).........
Truth is, no one knows your heart, your pain and/or your desires more than you do. "Heartbroken" is subjective. For me, I have honestly just felt Broken. For you, it may not be so deep, but whatever your level of "brokenness", be strong enough to evaluate your needs for yourself and not pattern them according to what others deem is appropriate for you.

So, what do YOU want? Seriously. What are YOUR requirements for a happy life and/or love? Figure that out, and you will see a definite change in the way that you approach things and how you make decisions.

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One thing that I can truly agree on (and I've definitely heard lots and lots of times) is the fact that everyone has a past of some sort. That being said, I had to remind myself that I am no less worthy of reciprocal love than any other person with a "different" past. 

Remember who you are. Believe in and walk in your worth. Love the person that you are and are becoming as you incessantly evolve, and while doing so don't settle for anything that you really don't want in your life. You only have one life to live. Try to make the most of your moments.

Dear Future Forever Love... Yes... I Did say Forever.... So I'll wait...

I hope that this entry is uplifting and encouraging to all who read it. Until next time, I am your passionately driven ChristalNicole, seeking to enlighten and motivate...

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