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Set Yourself Free...

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She's wild and crazy, some may say...
How can she allow herself to be out in public like that, others may think...

Once upon a time, I would care so much about what people say or think that I would have difficulty with just being myself. I would change my hair, the way that I dressed or even the way that I acted, just to please others. I was bound. I was bound by the fear of not pleasing others or meeting their standards. Is this you?

What binds you?

  • Self-doubt/self-pity?
  • Inability to let go of the past?
  • Fear of not pleasing others?
  • Insecurities?...
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It's time to let it go. Be liberated!

You will never be able to grow and evolve into your true self, as long as you are focusing on your flaws versus your strengths, your past rather than your present and future, and/or whether or not your life (keyword: YOUR) is lining up to be what others want it to be. Having a "people-pleaser" mindset will always set you on a path of illogical thinking and an ever-changing bar of acceptance. So, let's change it! 

Today is the day to change your thought process, begin a journey of self-evolution, and set yourself free!

No longer will you be bound by thoughts of self-doubt and beliefs that you are not "good enough". Gone are the days that other people's opinions of you are allowed to be dictations of your life path or extinguishers your dreams and aspirations.

As always, I've linked a few helpful articles of reference within this entry to assist you on your journey. Believing in your journey of liberation, your always passionately driven ChristalNicole...


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